｜Change and courage
15年利用碎片時間看的這本書，簡單的句子不難理解，看完了卻讓內心激蕩了很久，最近在思考改變的勇氣，重新翻出來這篇讀後感，重新理清一些脈絡。
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先摘錄一部分值得我們深省的幾個段落，作為後續的引子：
-The more important your cheese is to you, the more you want to hold on to it.
-Haw said:」Sometimes, Hem, things change and they are never the same again. This looks like one of those times. That』s life! Life moves on. And so should we.」
-「What would I do if I weren』t afraid?」
-When you move beyond your fear, you feel free. Haw looked down the dark passage way and aware of his fear.
-Imagining myself enjoying new cheese even before i find it, leads me to it.
-Haw kept thinking about what he could gain instead of what he was losing.
-He wondered why he had always thought that a change would lead to something worse. Now he realized that change can lead to something better.
-The quicker you let go of old cheese, the sooner you find new cheese.
-He was happy when he wasn』t being run by his fear. He liked what he was doing now.
-Just realizing he was not letting his fear stop him and knowing that he had taken a new direction nourished his and gave him strength.
-It is safer to search in the maze than remain in the cheeseless situation.
-What you are afraid of is never as bad as what you imagine.
-The fear you let build up in your mind is worse than the situation that actually exists.
-Now he realized it was natural for change to continually occur, whether you expect it or not. Change could surprise you only if you didn』t expect it and were』t looking for it.
-He knew when you change what you believe, you change what you do.
-You can believe that a change will harm you and resist it.Or you can believe that finding new cheese will help you and embrace the change.
-It all depends on what you choose to believe.
-He realized the fastest way to change is to laugh at your own folly, then you can let go and quickly move on.
-In short, a change imposed is a change opposed
很多人看完後會對號入座，你是Sniff, Scurry,還是 Haw，Hem， 可能每個人多多少少都逃離不了Hem的影子，我們害怕改變，因為改變帶來的是未知，未知代表著你會脫離你目前的舒適區，未知，有可能是bad thing, 也有可能是 something better,但你首當其衝感受到的，確是fear。初到北京的時候，每次搬家的時候，換工作的時候，一個人到一個完全陌生的城市的時候，失去什麼的時候……這些生活上的變動，每一次每一次都像是要把人撕碎了一樣，我以為是選擇恐懼症，其實哪有什麼選擇恐懼症，我們不過是害怕選擇，害怕選擇所帶來的後果。
看這本書的時候，我想到了旅行，其實一次旅行真的不會突然讓你成長，也不會一下子給了你所要的靈魂的歸宿，更不會空降給你一個信仰。真正讓我迷戀的是，在一片完全陌生之中，一切沒有很糟糕，我可以成為任何我想成為的狀態，我見到更多我沒見到的人事，我切身體會到道聽途說的景色事物，這一切的感官，在我的舒適區之外，卻是the better one，或者可以說，是戰勝自己恐懼后的喜悅與自得，成就。
久而久之，每次做決定的時候，總是先把能想到的壞結果都想到，然後問了問自己，能承受嗎？能！那麼就邁開了腳步，我把每次的決定都當成一場賭博，不是每次的勝算都是100%，但我可以接受那0%的成功率，那100%失敗的結果我也能承擔，如此，簡單了很多。可這還不夠，Sniff和Scurry是靠著自己的直覺，Haw是靠著自己的思考，我並不想成為誰，但我不要只依靠直覺而行動，把它視為賭博，本身，還是缺少了邁開腳步的勇氣。
當你征服了你害怕的，才是征服了你自己，不，不可以這麼定義。但目前不知道用什麼樣的話語來表達這個意思。
如果你不能embrace the change,那就adapt to it. 至少，不要在沒了乳酪后只是拍著腦袋問「誰動了我的乳酪？」 改變必不可少，勇氣的價值在於你是主動改變，還是被動而抱怨這改變。
後記：如果改變與踏出舒適區的過程讓你感覺被撕碎了一樣，那你要慶幸，因為接下來，是你重組的過程，為了組成一個更好的自己，你要做哪些事情？還有，你想把自己組裝成個什麼樣子？